I have a bad habit of thinking that everything is my fault. Remarkable, actually. No matter what happens or what other people do, I always feel like it happened. It's my personal tendency psychologically, but it's also influenced by depression. If you feel like it's all your fault, read on for why it might be and what to do about it.

Why would a person think that everything is their fault?

There are many reasons why people think that everything is their fault. Education is great. Children tend to believe that everything is their fault because they don't understand the larger factors at play. Children are the center of their universe – they haven't learned any different yet – so they think things like their parents' divorce are their fault. And, of course, some parents reinforce this belief by blaming their children for things that are completely out of their control. If this was you, it makes sense to carry that feeling into adulthood.

But I think there's a bigger reason why so many people think it's all their fault, and that's the illusion of control. If you believe that everything is your fault, then you believe that everything is in your control. If you believe that you are in control, then you can prevent bad things from happening. This idea comforts people and has spawned self-help nonsense like yours attract everything that comes your way (as in attract Hiddenand so on.). People buy into this illusion because they want to believe that they can prevent bad things from happening and make good things happen. Although most of the events that happen to us are beyond our control. (Just ask a starving child.)

I feel like everything is my fault because of my depression

While I believe I have psychological reasons for believing that everything is my fault, I also believe that depression dramatically increases this tendency. “Feelings of worthlessness or extreme guilt” is an actual symptom of depression Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. We know that people who suffer from depression feel this way because of the illness itself.

The Effect of Overthinking It's All My Fault

This is devastating because believing that everything is your fault only makes you lonely hate yourself more so when bad things happen. What if someone rejects you? It's your fault. If you lose a job? It's your fault. What if there was a fire in the kitchen? It's your fault. Why don't you hate yourself if you believe all this happened? Why don't you feel worthless? Self-blame and feelings of worthlessness go hand in hand.

Overwhelming feelings of self-blame drown out all additional aggravating factors. Of course, we all affect our lives, and this affects what happens to us. We have an important role to play in our lives. But many things are beyond our control. Someone may reject you because of their own psychological peccadilloes. You may lose your job because the company is downsizing. It's not just your fault.

The Difference Between Personal Responsibility and Thinking It's All My Fault

I've talked about it before personal responsibility. we have to do we are responsible for our own mental illness and our own health. And I believe that. I think it's important that we don't use bipolar disorder as an excuse for bad behavior. There is a fine line between saying, taking responsibility, and believing that everything is your fault. You can take responsibility take your medications as prescribed ― it's important for health ― but if you're depressed despite your best efforts, it's not your fault. You can only do what you can and you are not to blame for bipolar disorder itself.

Struggle with thinking that everything is your fault

Like I said, our choices dramatically affect our lives, but it's important to appreciate what we do and don't control. You can contribute to the breakdown of the relationship, but this does not mean that it will happen. There's a whole other person out there that you can't control.

So when I start thinking that everything is my fault, I try to stop and appreciate the reality of that thought. Can I really be at fault here? Am I reading the situation correctly? Are there other influencing factors? What part of the situation can I not control? No matter what role I play, how can I maintain my worth?

Answering these questions may sound easy, but it can be very difficult for a person with severe depression. Sometimes I need help. It's great to bounce these answers from a friend. And of course, a therapist can be a great help as well.

The important thing for me to remember is that depression makes me blame myself. I have to remember that because I think and feel, that doesn't make it true. I have to remember that depression is a liar. Not only does depression lie to me, but depression makes me lie to myself. Struggling with the idea that everything is my fault is not just a matter of underestimating the reality of the situation, but actually dealing with depression itself.

And finally, I have to remember that making mistakes and rightfully blaming myself may affect my self-perception, but it shouldn't affect my worth. Value is intrinsic. Everyone makes mistakes. It does not make them worthless as human beings. I have to remember that it's the depression that tells me I'm worthless, not me, not the world.

In short, everything is not your fault, but even if something is, you are still good.

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